Are polyamorous relationships real relationship? Or is it just a different way of cheating? Can you really love, and feel connected, to more than one person? How does that work?
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Gaslighting is one of the most disorienting experiences in a relationship — and one of the hardest to name. If you've ever walked away from a conversation feeling confused, ashamed, or convinced that your own memory can't be trusted, you may have experienced it. Learn the signs, see real examples, and find out what to do next.
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Passive-Aggressive behavior can wreck a relationship. It’s hard to spot and hard to defend against. And, it can leave the non-passive-aggressive partner feeling lost, confused, gaslighted, and alone.
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Trial separations are confusing. How long should a break last? Positive signs during a separation? Is there a trial separation checklist to help you think through your time apart?
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A dead bedroom is almost never a sex problem. A couples therapist explains what’s really going on — and why fixing it starts somewhere most couples never look.
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“Radical Empathy”. Sounds like a crazy idea doesn’t it? How can empathy be radical? But applying the principles of Radical Empathy to your relationship can help you and your partner grow closer and deepen your sense of connection.
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As a psychotherapist specializing in working with seniors, I’m sometimes called into situations where middle aged children are in a pitched battle over how to care for their elderly parents. Often the kids are so focused on their own conflict, that they can’t see that their intransigence is resulting in their parents not receiving the care they need.
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When parents are emotionally unavailable, children suffer. They grow up feeling emotionally lonely. Take the childhood emotional neglect test. See if you carry the scars of an emotionally unavailable parent.
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Starting to feel intimate again after an affair is incredibly hard for both partners. Sex is sure to trigger strong feelings of guilt, shame, anger, or sadness. It’s difficult to regain that sense of trust and the belief that you are truly desired.
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Emotionally immature parents create emotionally lonely children. And this emotional loneliness then has a huge impact on their ability to love, feel loved, and connect as an adult.
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It’s not how often you fight, but how it feels during your fights. These 5 simple steps can help you and your partner cool down and stay connected even during a fight.
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When is it right to move in together? It’s a question many couples struggle with. Here are thee simple questions that can help you find an answer and strengthen your relationship.
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When to walk away after infidelity. Three reasons to consider leaving. It’s never an easy decision. But if your partner did any of these, it may be time to walk away after infidelity.
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Couples crave the intimacy of going on vacation. So, why do so many end up fighting while on vacation?
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Most of us don’t know how to make a real apology. That’s not surprising, because most of us have been taught from early childhood how to give fake apologies.
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Both men and women feel shame when the man has trouble with his erection. The worst thing they can do is NOT talk about it.
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When couples stop enjoying sex, the solution isn’t to start wearing masks or using handcuffs. The best way to bring passion back to the marriage is to feel more emotionally connected to your partner.
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The Quality Time Love Language sounds easy but can be hard to do. For many couples, it’s a challenge to consistently have quality time that is both satisfying and communicates their love.
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Couples often accuse each other of “overreacting”. What does that really mean? Are they really overreacting? Or is one partner just trying to get the other to “Shut Up”? Here’s how to stop the fight that inevitably follows.
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Intimacy Anorexia is often linked to couples living in sexless marriages. The idea is that one partner is actively withholding sex from the marriage. It sounds simple. But that’s just not the way marriages work.
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